Comments on: 3 Different Things That Cause Anxiety and Their 3 Different Solutions

By: Marta

Marta — Sun, 26 Sep 2021 15:08:49 +0000

I totally relate to MaryAnn story and anxiety

By: Jonice

Jonice — Wed, 27 May 2020 12:11:27 +0000

In reply to Anna. I'm so glad you're in such a supportive relationship, Anna. You can start a support group of your own! All my best to you.

By: Kathy

Kathy — Tue, 26 May 2020 16:36:31 +0000

I totally understand where Weena is coming from. The same is happening for me (not to me). I am having to (and had to) let several relationships go including family (not so easy) and friends (not so easy when you still have other friends (who are worth keeping) in common. Like Shakespeare said, “to thine own self be true.” I would rather not have family or friends if they are toxic and not good for me. What is wonderful is being able to tell the difference and developing the feeling of indifference over past relationships (or even ongoing) that are not worthy of me. At any rate, all worth it.

All my best, Kathy

By: Anna

Anna — Tue, 26 May 2020 15:50:56 +0000

Learning about CEN has not only changed my life, but certainly my future. After a lifetime of allowing the wrong men in my life and 3 divorces, I am lucky enough to have found a man that, from the beginning, saw the REAL me and loved everything he saw. He not only knew our potential as a couple, but could see and encourage my potential as a partner, an entrepreneur and inventor! After sharing CEN with him, his understanding of me is so much deeper and boy howdy – let me tell you – it’s wonderful having a man that is compassionate and willing to do anything to help me become my best!! I have pushed that man away 3 times in one year, because that’s what we do when things get emotionally difficult – but he keeps coming back and won’t let me quit “us”. These emails are my lifeline Dr. Webb and I thank you for them. I wish I could get my siblings to latch on, I’ll keep after them. I wish there were local support groups, I’d bring snacks every time!

By: Lou

Lou — Mon, 25 May 2020 00:58:34 +0000

In reply to Weena. Weena, thank you for posting your comment. I can relate to everything you've said. It was a strange feeling letting go of those long-term dysfunctional relationships, and it caused me a lot of grief, and possibly caused them grief too. But I'm surrounded now by a small number of high quality people who genuinely care about my wellbeing. They are helping me become the best version of myself. And I'm so grateful. Sending love to you on your journey.

By: Jonice

Jonice — Sun, 24 May 2020 20:53:40 +0000

In reply to Weena. Dear Weena, striving for healthy relationships is so important to quality of life. It's great you didn't settle and have worked for what you deserve.

By: Weena

Weena — Sun, 24 May 2020 18:13:01 +0000

As I became more determined to heal from what you describe, I learned that telling the truth was essential. To my surprise and grief, telling the truth has cost me virtually all my friendships. It finally struck me that all of my friendships had grown out of my dysfunction. As I gained a clearer picture of myself, CEN, and dysfunctional coping strategies, I realized all of my “friends” were severely disturbed individuals (“misery loves company”). I was the only one facing the challenge of finding healthy ways of relating. Sick people run from healthy behaviors. When we turn and face the truth, and begin to choose different behaviors, our relationships begin to look very different too. I see this as evolution but it’s hard to let go of old ways and old relationships that keep you from functioning. I now have several solid friendships that feel very, very different from the old ones. I’m trying to get used to it!