I tell myself those exact things all the time! But I am trying to become more aware of when I am saying those things in my head and making excuses for people and then stopping that. They were survival mechanisms in our past because we couldn’t understand why our parents treated us the way they did, so we made up a narrative that was easier to digest and made sense.

Thanks Jonice. Perfect response and very apt for me. Definitely a great idea to observe what is happening when I have the fluctuations. That will help.

Dear Gladeye, I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way. If there’s no therapist near you, you can do teletherapy with a CEN therapist. Or you can do a lot of healing through my books and/or online programs.

Dear Lorraine, it’s not possible to feel overwhelming love at all times. Might you feel less love if you are tired or upset about something or a little disappointed/miffed at your partner? It would be good to try to sort out what is causing your fluctuations.

That is wonderful to hear, Sue. Keep up the good work!

I can’t imagine your pain. I care about your feelings and I know I’m not the only one. Alcohol is nothing but trouble, but you already know that.

Sometimes, I feel I am nothing. I can’t find a single therapist in L.A. (on my health plan) that lists CEN as a specialty, either.

Dear RJM, “incurable” is an extreme stance to take. I suggest you talk with a therapist and let someone help and support you.