She can speak for herself and your comment is not making positive results to the world . If thats whats so important to to then you would be making positive comments

Dear Cynthia, both of my books are available to check out free in libraries everywhere. Also, I wish I could offer all of my services and help for free, but unfortunately even well-intentioned, caring people must support themselves.

If you really wanted to help people then the book should be free

Diane, kindred spirit,

I’m 50 and the only daughter of a narcissistic mom. I was the scape goat. At the age of twelve I took a razor blade to my wrist. At eighteen I was pushed into marrying the man she was infatuated with, and for all intents and purposes, was her boyfriend. He treated me exactly the way she treated me. When I began dating him at sixteen I decided I didn’t like him (was afraid of him) but she had already fallen for him so there was no way out. They both told me I shouldn’t need any friends cause he should be enough and if he wasn’t that was on me because I was all he needed.

When he tried to choke me to death she told me that I had always brought out the worst in people and took him shopping to comfort him while I walked behind them carrying their bags. At lunch she told him to not feel bad about it cause she knew how I could be – right in front of me, while I sat silently.

Seven years in, at age 25 I left him in the middle of the night while he was at work. I lived with my mom for awhile as I had nowhere else to go. I paid rent. A few months after the divorce she cried and told me that I had no idea how hard this divorce was on her. I however, was never allowed to cry. Ever. If I cried as a child she would yell at me, “GO TO YOUR ROOM IF YOU’RE GONNA CRY! NO ONE WANTS TO SEE YOU CRY!” The only acceptable emotions were the ones she felt….or told me to feel.

I’ve been looking for answers my whole life, but I always thought it was something wrong with me. Down to my very core being, as this is what my mom told me.

You’re so right with the codependency umbrella back in the day. That’s all we had. I knew there had to be more and have continued my lifelong search for something more specific.

If it weren’t for people like Dr Webb (and so many others) I wouldn’t have been able to put the pieces together of this incredibly complicated puzzle. I’m forever grateful for people like her who have dedicated so much of themselves to figuring out why so many of us suffer.

So thank you Dr Webb, your work has made a positive difference in my life. Without people like you there couldn’t be people like me. Once broken and now whole.

I’m so glad to be helpful to you Diane. Thanks for your kind words!

I agree, Dr. Webb’s work is amazing and so precise. I am a CEN and had a narcissistic parent plus a codependent/CEN parent and have had two very abusive boyfriends and one husband with CEN. Through the years I tried to analyze my family of origin and my behavior, but at the time (pre-Internet) there was not as much understanding nor resources. The main issue discussed in the 80s and 90s was codependency. Everything was lumped into “codependency.”

Dr. Webb has refined this psychological/mental health area with all her research and given us the information through her liberating books and blogs. Finally, after decades at age 69 I have a clear diagnosis!

And I doubt all that writing and publishing bought you a yacht! You just improved a whole lot of lives. Thank you for your service on behalf of so many.

If you had the education, took the time and energy AND dedicated your life to a cause….you’d probably suggest people read your book as well. Instead of making comments on someone’s hard work. She’s trying to make a positive difference in the world.

If you feel that way, why do you read these kinds of articles lol.

Dear Cynthia, contrary to what most people think, books are not about money for most authors, and the vast majority of authors do not make money from their books. For me, my books are a tool to reach people and help more folks learn about Childhood Emotional Neglect, which I feel passionate about. This concept has made a meaningful difference for thousands of people and I will continue what I am doing until my true goals are met. I will not stop until Childhood Emotional Neglect is a household word. Thank you for your comment.