Comments on: 5 Steps To Break Down Your Wall

By: Kelly

Kelly — Wed, 18 Jun 2025 05:41:53 +0000

My ongoing issue is my bio father gave me up when I was 11 or 12, and my bio mother who “raised” me, always talked down to me and belittled me. This caused major medical issues that she told me that I was a hypochondriac my entire life, even when I was an adult. All I wanted was to feel loved by my mother and father for that matter, which I never felt from either of them. So my adult life has been filled with many failed relationships. I am so tired of this.

By: Jonice

Jonice — Mon, 23 Jan 2023 17:52:45 +0000

In reply to Eric. Hi Eric, divorce does affect children, for sure. I would imagine a situation like yours could give you a less stable and predictable environment to grow up and mature in, potentially causing extra challenges and/or some delays. I'm sorry you had to experience all that upheaval as a child.

By: Eric

Eric — Sun, 22 Jan 2023 01:13:29 +0000

My parents had a bad divorce when I was 2 years old, my brother was 6. Custody was given to my Mother and I visited my Dad every Wednesday and every other weekend. I’ve had 4 step parents since, 3 for my Dad and 1 for my Mom (married 37yrs.). So I spent 18% of my time with my Dad and 84 % with my Mom. My Dad was a functioning alcoholic and didn’t show much emotion. Although I had a lot growing up, very fortunate, I never knew my Mom an Dad together except for a argument that some how I remember from age 2.
My question is, do children, especially younger children suffer emotionally from early divorces and mature slower than other stable family children or does it matter ?

By: Jonice

Jonice — Mon, 23 Aug 2021 12:47:26 +0000

In reply to Phyllis. Dear Phyllis, have you taken the Emotional Neglect Test? It sure sounds like you grew up very fast. I encourage you to look more closely at your childhood and read Running On Empty if you haven't already. Consult a CEN-trained therapist from the Find A Therapist List to get some help with sorting our your childhood and how it plays into your current happiness.

By: Phyllis

Phyllis — Mon, 23 Aug 2021 00:48:23 +0000

Jonice I have a couple of questions. I believe my Mom was not emotionally neglectful, she was however somewhat critical. My Dad drank alot and that caused alot of drama in our family. My parents divorced when I was 11. So I met a boyfriend at age 14 and we married when I was 15 and had a baby right before I was 16 and at 17 had our 2nd child. I want to know if my husband could have contributed to my CEN due to my age? He was also young, only 2 yrs older than me.

By: Jacob

Jacob — Fri, 04 Jun 2021 19:32:15 +0000

godbless you.

By: Jonice

Jonice — Mon, 24 May 2021 23:58:44 +0000

In reply to Sophia. Dear Sophia, there are overlapping symptoms in many diagnoses and psychological illnesses. But schizoid and CEN are, in my opinion, unrelated, as the schizoid personality has a myriad of other symptoms that CEN people don't have and vice-versa.

By: Sophia

Sophia — Sun, 23 May 2021 18:42:36 +0000

Hi Jonice, thank you for all you are doing! When you mentioned in the article that “the Empty feeling is a result of having a wall inside of you which essentially blocks your emotions away” it made me wonder if there is an overlap with CEN and schizoid personality disorder and/or schizoid adaptations. I’ve read that schizoid personality disorder is “a condition in which people avoid social activities and interacting with others. Schizoid personality disorder typically begins in early adulthood. People with this condition don’t desire or enjoy close relationships, even with family, and are often seen as loners. They may be emotionally cold and detached” People who are diagnosed with schizoid and share their experiences often mention feeling like there is a wall or thick sheet of glass that is separating them from others.

By: Cr

Cr — Sat, 03 Oct 2020 22:45:16 +0000

I love my wife more than anything but I’ve got a problem keeping happiness in my hart with her I loss excitement but I never want to lose her someone is roung with me how do I keep my love showing so she know it and haw do I keep from losing interest in my w married I’ve all ways put my self 1 st before others I want to stop how do I do this

By: Jonice

Jonice — Sat, 12 Sep 2020 15:06:11 +0000

In reply to Presley. Dear Presley, you will need to break down that wall of yours. Please find a therapist near you on the Find A CEN Therapist List on this website. Let one person in who is trained to support and help you.