Comments on: Answering The Question: How Does Emotional Neglect Affect A Child

By: Sheila and Don

Sheila and Don — Mon, 20 Jun 2022 20:59:59 +0000

Thank you for these articles on CEN. Both my husband and I suffered with CEN as children. My husband worse than me. He was the surprise baby and never wanted by his parents. They tried to give him and his brother away every weekend. Any money needed to be spent on my husband the father got really mean. This includes basic necesities. It began when he was not much more than a toddler and by age three he dad developed a severe case of Failure to thrive. By age 5, he wanted to commit suicide. His brother wanted to commit suicide at age 12. until age 67, he was alone and struggling with alcoholism. Our Lord put me in his life and with his studying And learned various self therapy and release methods and my praying over his therapy. He has came a long way in healing. Our Lord cured his alcohoism in 2012. We are now working on his Narcissism which entails exorcising up to 15 demons.
We have both learned A LOT from your writings. You are much apreciated.

By: jane

jane — Mon, 22 Mar 2021 12:02:46 +0000

I am in love with this topic.I am a counseling psychologist who has dealt clients who have come presenting with CEN but they do not know what is wrong with them. I am doing a dissertation on impact of transitional effects of parental divorce on adolescents psycho social well being. Your work is very helpful as those children whose parents one or both remarried or involved them in inter parental child custody conflicts are likely to have CEN symptoms.kindly give me the reference or how to cite the article APA 6th edition.Thank dr Jonice you are a blessing to many. Jane from Nairobi Kenya.

By: Adrienne

Adrienne — Wed, 21 Nov 2018 18:49:30 +0000

I hate my mom. I’ve always turned to other people for nuturing and validation and I always knew something was wrong with our relationship. I feel so ruined, and like no one can love me

By: Sue F

Sue F — Tue, 31 Jul 2018 23:16:38 +0000

In reply to Teresa Fratangelo. I hope Dr Jonice doesn't mind but I just finished a book called "Unspoken Legacy" by Dr Claudia Black. It deals with abuse and addiction and has some wonderful tools for healing. I was one of five children and for me not ALL my emotional needs were met. I had a mother who had her own issues and my parents "did their best" but they did not have all the tools either. For me it was reading and researching and getting to know where it all came from. None of us wants to be living a life of sadness by things that have happened to us in the past. Healing is possible but it takes courage and commitment.

By: Trace

Trace — Mon, 18 Jun 2018 01:22:43 +0000

In reply to Jonice. Thanks. My dad died of suicide about 5 years ago and we never had a chance to talk about childhood issues. Not that he would have admitted doing anything wrong.

By: Jonice

Jonice — Sun, 17 Jun 2018 23:31:04 +0000

In reply to Trace. Dear Trace, you can allow yourself to resent your parent. It's OK. Yes, you can undo the damage yourself. Follow the steps for healing Childhood Emotional Neglect. It will help.

By: Trace

Trace — Sun, 10 Jun 2018 02:11:33 +0000

How do you not resent a parent for not being a parent? For the child having to be the parent and not having a healthy childhood? Can the damage be undone even though I’m an adult now?

By: Sue F

Sue F — Sun, 03 Jun 2018 23:37:28 +0000

Not seen and not heard. Emotions not really validated. I was told I was “too emotional”, “too sensitive” and “too needy”. Lots of carried shame from my mum and a father who enabled her behaviour. Bought up in an era where I was taught to “keep the peace”, “don’t rock the boat” and “you know what you mother is like” and to top it all off I was to be the “good daughter”. Lots of reading over the past few years on these issues. No more blaming parents who couldn’t give me what I needed but an understanding and acceptance that they just didn’t have the tools. I can now give myself what I never got back then and it feels good.

By: Anne

Anne — Sun, 03 Jun 2018 20:06:03 +0000

It’d be nice if you added share buttons (Facebook, Pinterest, etc) to your articles so your readers can spread your work.

By: Claudia Carlsen

Claudia Carlsen — Sun, 03 Jun 2018 19:55:51 +0000

I agree with all points except #5. I had a very great awareness of what was happening to me. I understood that my parents were not available for me in an emotional way. So I felt I had to keep quiet and silently endure it bc otherwise I would be verbally abused: yelled at, deemed unappreciative of their efforts 🙂