Comments on: Are You Prone to Depression? This Could Be the Reason

By: Jonice

Jonice — Sat, 09 Nov 2019 17:48:46 +0000

In reply to Rajit. The long list of Emotion Words in the back of the Running On Empty book will help. Along with lots of practice.

By: Rajit

Rajit — Wed, 06 Nov 2019 06:30:23 +0000

I have manged to make a habit of breaking the wall but the wall enters when i talk with someone… Its not that i am nervous or anything but i guess that its the emotions attached to the words that is missing .Any good strategies to improve on that ? I feel this is the only prt that i feel is sort of missing.

By: P

Mon, 15 Oct 2018 04:11:52 +0000

Suzanne,
I just ran across this site and your comments. I felt like you were speaking my thoughts and emotions. Everything you said, I have said to myself hundreds, thousands of times. I am 67 and feel that this loneliness and sometimes self-hatred will be with me always. I have suffered with depression for years. I try to keep telling myself that everything will be ok, but the one thing I have always clung to, hope, seems to be getting harder to hold onto. We can only continue to try and keep positive. Reading other people’s comments let us know we are not alone. Thank you for your posting.

By: Jonice

Jonice — Sun, 02 Sep 2018 14:56:42 +0000

In reply to Sue F. Good for you Sue. It's so important to take your power back from those who have drained it away by emotionally neglecting you.

By: Sue F

Sue F — Sat, 01 Sep 2018 23:30:32 +0000

I have done a lot of work on myself in the past five years and for me it was realising that none of this was my fault. I’m not going to let what others did or didn’t do to me rule the rest of my life. My healing is for me. They can’t see that though. They see somebody who is “too emotional” or “too sensitive”. I just refuse to let them have any more power over me or shame me for how I feel.

By: Lisa Redding

Lisa Redding — Fri, 05 Jan 2018 14:45:55 +0000

Suzanne, I hope you are feeling at least somewhat better by now. I’m 57, and still suffering with the effects of this.

By: Learning to choose joy

Learning to choose joy — Sun, 20 Aug 2017 15:41:22 +0000

You can still find emotional nourishment, connection and validation in yourself, and recovery community. I didn’t marry until my late forties, and while I chose to marry someone more “appropriate” in values and life management than prior boyfriends, my CEN-related blind spots still affected my choice of spouse and the EN continues… It’s easier to insulate and less painful to be single sometimes. I will keep moving forward to heal and be able to give and receive love. 🙂

By: M

Fri, 11 Aug 2017 19:08:20 +0000

Hi Suzanne,

I’m in the same boat as you – I thought it was just me! I feel like such a loser in love, even though outwardly I’m attractive and get along well with men – but I’ve also come to realize that I’ve had major self-sabotage issues. I’ve been sabotaging all the happy things in my life. To overcome this, I’ve been doing Emotional Freedom Technique and other self-help things as well as talking to therapists to try to work my way out of this bind. I’ve already noticed progress, even though I’m still working on it. I first started reading about mother issues online when one day at work I absent-mindedly typed into google “my mother is jealous of my happiness.” Hang in there!! Hugs, M.

By: Suzanne

Suzanne — Tue, 18 Apr 2017 06:40:20 +0000

What scares me, as an adult woman in her late 40’s, I still want to HURT the woman who hurt me. (my Mother). I was always told as a child to “Shut Up and go to my room as no one cares what I think/feel”…and I still cannot get over the Hurt (& hatred) I feel for her as she doesn’t think she’s ever done anything wrong to me or anyone… (shes very narcissistic)…
WHY CANT I GET OVER THIS??
Im now in my late 40’s, very intelligent, successful, attractive, etc BUT STILL SINGLE AND NOT TRULY HAPPY. I see most of my friends in relationships and I’ve NEVER had a good relationship with a man because I always DOUBTED MYSELF (and then unintentionally sabotage the relationship) even before it had time to start…IT STILL KILLS ME AND MAKES ME SO SADDD……

I’VE JUST DESTINED MY LIFE TO BE ALONE (& LONELY) AND NOT FEEL ANY TRUE LOVE From A SIGNIFICANT OTHER AS MY FRIENDS, SIBLINGS HAVE….WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME????? I REALLY DO WANT AFFECTION/LOVE/RESPECT/ADMIRATION, BUT I DONT TRUST ANYONE OR BELIEVE THAT I AM TRULY LOVABLE….i JUST FEEL LIKE IM DEAD.