Comments on: 6 Sad Reasons Why A Family Creates A Black Sheep

By: me

me — Mon, 25 May 2026 18:03:57 +0000

ive been the black sheep since my divoce from my exhusband. he was a dangerous evil thinking narcissist. long story short ,he made sure i was miserable not happy lonley with no one left in my life. he made alot of mean things happen to me. took everyone in my life away from me including my best freinds of 30 plus years.he told them something that has kept them away for over ten years already. my family sees me diff.he told a buch of lies and told things that should have been private instead he told everyone. grow old with someone your own age! my ex was 19 years older than me . married 24 years. karma got the ex……he died of covid. in 2020.

By: Jerry

Jerry — Mon, 25 May 2026 05:35:00 +0000

In reply to Lilly. I hope your doing well and aren’t sick anymore

By: Doty

Doty — Mon, 18 May 2026 03:43:27 +0000

I am the black sheep out of 3 girls. I am the middle sister. My dad worked a lot and was mostly absent while growing up. My mom took care of us. Seems to me she wears the pants in the relationship. He never stood up for himself when she was scolding him. She was always this party pooper. I’m sure she has her way of loving us but she is like a child. I feel now that I’m 28, I have to parent her! She always makes snarky comments since I’ve married a Muslim man. They came to visit us in Texas (I am Croatian and lived there for 24 years and my sisters stayed there, none married yet but dating for 5 years each and still haven’t gotten the ring) and nothing seems to be good enough. She has not said “I’m happy for you” or “you’re doing well” ONE TIME. NOT ONE TIME! just goes on about how the shower in the guest bathroom is not good and just complains ALL THE TIME. She hasn’t seen me in a year and that is all she does. Embarassing me. I am the only member of the whole family who decided to turn her life around and since then, all they do is gossip about me behind my back. I am done feeling guilty that I chose a better life and didn’t stay in my comfort zone. None of them have the courage so all they can do is make snarky comments and complain. I tried so many times to smooth things out and make her welcome but she just REFUSES

By: Kage.k

Kage.k — Thu, 14 May 2026 01:19:46 +0000

I’m 19, my whole life I’ve been told so many things that made me feel like I wasn’t worthy of my family. I remember one time I was half asleep in my room and I heard my mom in my brother’s room across from mine saying how I was the worst out of my three brothers. that same exact memory has been eating me up every morning and night. I just graduated high school and barely even anyone cared about it. not even my friends cared about me graduating, they only cared about not having to deal with me anymore. I had so many friends from highschool use me for money till the point I gave up trying to even bother getting that money back because I know I won’t ever get it back. I just had my birthday recently too and nobody cared about it. not even my own friends and most my family members care.
I live knowing that I will never be enough for them and that just doesn’t give me the motivation to even do anything anymore, I can’t even take care of my self like I used to.
But over the years of living like this I’ve realized, everyone’s lives are different. people go through their own battles, they’re own struggles, things that they will live with till the day they die, but that’s all apart of life. that same negative mindset will effect you daily until you do something about it. even the smallest actions can make a big change on your life. don’t be like me wasting your moments away and letting everything get to you, who cares what other thinks of you, it’s your life go live it the way you want to.
remember that there’s approximately 7 octillion atoms in a human body. all those atoms have a single purpose of keeping you alive, also remember that you aren’t born a mistake. you are born an amazing human being like everyone else.

By: Jonice

Jonice — Wed, 13 May 2026 12:00:12 +0000

In reply to Leah. Dear Leah, it is so very important for you to talk with an adult you trust about your situation at home. Is there a teacher or school counselor you could share some of this with? They may be able to help you navigate getting a therapist to talk with regularly. You should not have to feel so alone with this.

By: Jonice

Jonice — Wed, 13 May 2026 11:56:30 +0000

In reply to Jeffrey.

Dear Jeffrey, I am so very sorry you are receiving this abuse from your father. It is essential that you talk with a trained therapist about this! I encourage you to contact one of the CEN therapists on my Find a CEN Therapist List. You can find it here: https://drjonicewebb.com/find-a-cen-therapist-list-2025/. Or you can ask your dr. for a referral. It’s important to share burdens like these so you’re not carrying it all by yourself. All my best wishes to you.

By: Lilly

Lilly — Sat, 09 May 2026 02:00:18 +0000

It’s quite comforting that us black sheeps are here and speaking out. I am the youngest sister of 3 girls. My life has gone on a different path to my sisters and that’s ok for me but not for them. They make me feel a burden. They did something to me that broke my heart and because I stood up for myself and expressed how upset I was their reaction was to tell me to delete them (I think that is what they wanted me to do) and to say it’s inevitable that we will become distant, we all have our own families. It’s only me and my daughter, I thought they were my family. I ended up suppressing my hurt and allowing them to continue to not value me. I was in a covid coma and nobody reached out to my daughter and she felt totally abandoned but didn’t tell me for sometime as I was too ill. Then the vaccine gave me blood clot after blood clot. I very nearly died, you would like to think they valued me more but no, all the pain and hurt came after this. My mum gave only me the silent treatment. Nothing I did made her proud of me. I was forever a disappointment. I am 60 next week and I no longer want to play this facade. All this suppression is making my daughter and myself ill. We have kept quiet and tried so hard to forgive and forget but the time has come to protect ourselves from any more silent pain. The entire family are due to go away for 3 days and my daughter and I have decided not to go. There is no going back once we do this but pretending is destroying us. To all the black sheeps out there, we are a very special type of person and I am going to embrace who I am and be me. If they don’t like it, I no longer care. Thank you for this site and allowing me to express this

By: DollMs.Dior

DollMs.Dior — Thu, 07 May 2026 11:23:46 +0000

I am the black sheep of the family

Ever since i was a kid, i never had the courage to speak up for myself. I’m not a very shy person irl nor scared of socializing with other people. It’s just that i was raised in a violent way thinking every beating is normal as a sign of love. Everyday, my breakfast would be curses and screaming on every fault i do. THEY NEVER TRIED TO UNDERSTAND ME. I’m so tired on trying to live in a world where society kept on criticizing people for everything they do when they know nothing about the options i have.

My dad fucking hates me. It all started when i was on 5th grade and my DAD beat my ass up for not eating on time. It was like the hands of an iron that slapped me to reality and from that day on, i stopped talking to him. He and my mom never really cared. They despised me for that and every curses feels like an arrow piercing through my heart. I thought they noticed but they never. They never treated my younger brother like that. My brother grew up with constant attention and love i never had. Well i don’t really care because i never pictured myself being in a perfect stable family. I gave all my hopes out years ago and it will never be the same. Everywhere i go, everyone has something to say to me. They see me as a rebellious child who always talks back to her parents. It’s just so sad because home is supposed to be a safe place but as a 16 year old, it feels like a jail where freedom doesn’t exist.

I lived all my life living in solitude and loneliness. at first it felt uncomfortable not having anyone to lean on but as time goes by, i was able to live in it. I always felt like a don’t belong in here and that i was punished on my past life and then was forced to live a life full of burden. I don’t believe when someone says blood is thicker than water because it is not random ppl who will bring you down but your own family.

By: Jeffrey

Jeffrey — Mon, 20 Apr 2026 02:46:37 +0000

My dad hasn’t talked to me for 1 1/2 years. He is 95 years old and has bad mouthed me to everyone.

By: Cats

Cats — Sun, 19 Apr 2026 15:01:02 +0000

In reply to Angel.

hi, I’m 12 and am going through a similar idea as you are, although it’s slightly different. my dad is rather rude and mean to me, and blames me for everything, and Im sure he would 100% abandon me if it weren’t for my mom (who is the best). I’m nowhere near old enough or with enough money to leave, and even if I could, my siblings and mom are still there, and I cant abandon them. I’m not even a teenager yet! sorry it’s pretty late (just discovered this) but I believe you can do it! Find people who will believe you. (this logic cant work for me tho, my dad is too nice to other people 🙁 but still be optomistic!) something that really helps me is using my huge collection of homemade stuffed animals to talk to and pretend that they’re therapists. might sound weird, but it helps when I cant talk to anyone else.