Comments on: Childhood Emotional Neglect: 4 Ways to Fill Your Emptiness

By: Gábor

Gábor — Tue, 09 Jun 2020 03:53:56 +0000

Thank you for this.

By: Jonice

Jonice — Fri, 29 Nov 2019 16:09:58 +0000

Hi Richard, there are indeed multiple CEN therapists in London! They are listed under UK in the Find a CEN Therapist List. https://drjonicewebb.com/find-a-cen-therapist-pennsylvania-washington/. I also recommend that you read my first book too, Running On Empty, if you haven’t yet. I think there are answers for you and a way to get past this. All my best to you.

By: Richard Macilwaine

Richard Macilwaine — Fri, 29 Nov 2019 12:47:43 +0000

Dear Jonice, thank you so much for discovering and talking about “CEN.” The wall separating your emotions from yourself… that’s it! That’s why I only have 1 or 2 friends and they’re in other countries. Why I have no relationship with my parents or siblings. Why at the age of 34 despite sleeping with 100 + women I have never had a romantic relationship (and it’s all I’ve ever wanted). Now I isolate myself as I just don’t know how to be in relationship with someone and I end up feeling really bad feelings. I have bought your book “Running on empty no more,” which is in the post and I can’t wait to get into it.
Many have said they thought I may have Aspergers or ADHD both of which I’m intending to get checked out the next time I go to the Dr.
I looked on your list of recommended therapists but I reside in London UK where there doesn’t appear to be a therapist. I have seen a number of therapists practicing schema therapy or Internal Family systems… they were all helpful in various ways.
Other issues I have is being unable to understand stuff so I cannot keep a job but I have an impressive presence so people like me and find it easy to employ me. I usually hate the jobs, feel insecure and then want to leave/quit.
I’m sure the answer lies with getting back in touch with my feelings. The feelings I shut off when I was bullied at home and then sent away to boarding school at the age of 6. I had to shut them off. I grew up in a society where being emotionless was something to be proud about… I was admired by many of my peers for being so cut off from my emotions. They called this being tough but it’s more akin to being an emotionless robot and defeats the whole purpose and point of life… to love and be loved.
I don’t love anyone. I grew up terrified of girls whilst being very ashamed to be interested in girls. I made it my mission to hide this fact from my parents. When it was known that I had an interest in girls I was bullied mercilessly.
Sorry for the long rant but I think you are the best person in the world to be able to help me.
Thanks again and if you have anyone London that would be epic alternatively I am willing and committed to relocating if need be.
Richard

By: Richard Macilwaine

Richard Macilwaine — Thu, 28 Nov 2019 06:50:27 +0000

In reply to AZ Desertgirl. Hi AZ, how is your recovery coming along? Developing new positive feelings for yourself and others?

By: Richard Macilwaine

Richard Macilwaine — Thu, 28 Nov 2019 06:47:44 +0000

In reply to Heidi Garrein. Hello Heidi, thanks for the content. Just wondering how your recovery is going? I'm asking as I'm someone who is void of many positive abilities and emotions like love and I am working hard to recover. Thanks for any feedback

By: Jonice

Jonice — Tue, 21 May 2019 11:43:49 +0000

In reply to Lauren.

Hi Lauren, please read the article on this site called The 3 Kinds of Emptiness (or something close to that). You are referring to the emptiness that is painful, and causes a person to go back and forth between extremes. There is a description of that in the article. You can ask me questions about the program here or you can email me at jwebbphd@gmail.com. All my best to you!

By: Lauren

Lauren — Tue, 21 May 2019 05:18:08 +0000

What is the most painful emptiness that requires DBT? I am trying CBT and finding it challenging. Also, where can I ask questions about the course you offer?

By: Jonice

Jonice — Tue, 14 May 2019 18:02:13 +0000

In reply to Heidi Garrein. Dear Heidi, I'm so glad to have given you helpful answers. I think you will find more in Running On Empty No More.Take care!

By: Jonice

Jonice — Tue, 14 May 2019 17:57:53 +0000

In reply to Philip. Dear Philip and Deb, thanks for suggesting that group. I am not involved in the group and cannot vouch for its quality.

By: Heidi Garrein

Heidi Garrein — Mon, 13 May 2019 19:04:40 +0000

hi. I have bought and read your first book. It woke me up. I knew all along that my upbringing had made me the way i am: empty, lonely and without self-esteem or hardly self-love. but this book showed it all much clearer. All these years I thought I was ‘just’ HSP. Only since I read your book, I started to realise that being HSP and being emotionally neglected is quite something. i just ordered the next book. i hope to find even more practicle tips as i still have a long and hard road ahead. thank you for being ‘my’ voice. Heidi, Belgium