By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Thu, 31 Jan 2019 16:47:00 +0000

I was looking for reccomendations on books for learning to become assertive specifically for people who have grown up with CEN due to drug abuse and narcissism. I am very interested in learning this skill and after 47 years finally have an explanation for my barreling self sabatoge and absolute terror of being assertive. Thank you very much.

By: Alexia Stefanidou

Alexia Stefanidou — Sun, 16 Mar 2014 21:58:41 +0000

Congratulations on your insightful work! Naming emotional neglect and recognising it as a core issue can certainly offer a great deal of relief to a suffering person and a more focused approach to the therapist.
Very inspiring work !
Being a therapist myself, I would like to share a few thoughts with you regarding the guilt which is so prominent in some cases as well as tormenting. We are all aware of the vicious circles almost every kind of emotional deprivation leads to. Having worked with people with the exact same problem I found that in order to alleviate the inexplicable pain experienced one has to acknowledge the guilt felt for the actual damage a person has caused to his own life and possibly to the life of others around him on his efforts to fulfil his unmet needs. Sometimes the neglected person has already, as you have pointed out, passed down the neglect to offsprings or exploited the lives of significant others. So the guilt felt has now another source which has to be mentioned and identified in order to help a person take responsibility of his feelings -no matter how week the awareness of them. It helps people the chance through acknowledgment of the harm done and possible reparation to gain some sort of control and thus to give a boost to their self esteem.
Thank you for hosting my comment and congratulations on your work.

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By: Elizabeth

By: Alexia Stefanidou