Comments on: Childhood Emotional Neglect: Stage 1 Recovery Worksheet For Therapists and Clients

By: Jane

Jane — Mon, 11 Aug 2025 12:29:28 +0000

Dr. JoniceThe 8 questions are great . Could you Please help us with the other four stages? Thank you in advance

By: Khara

Khara — Sun, 25 May 2025 07:04:00 +0000

In reply to Janet Yang.

I believe this may be what you’re looking for. I came to the website today to find them, as well.

https://drjonicewebb.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/08/Worksheets-From-Running-On-Empty-No-More.pdf

By: Janet Yang

Janet Yang — Mon, 07 Oct 2024 02:40:26 +0000

Can you tell me where to find the Change worksheet and the list of feelings worksheet that you note in your audio version of your book?

By: Ela

Ela — Fri, 07 Jun 2024 22:09:25 +0000

I think I am a CEN sufferer. I tried filling out the questionnaire in order to address the issue but I am blank. My mother left the country when I was 3 years old, my dad was absent emotionally and physically many times. The only thing I remember from my mother in my life is her voice . I only remember glimpses of my life and brief instances of my day. Is hurting my brain trying to dig it up. There seems to be nothing.
At this point I can only accept my reality and hope that I don’t make others feel as miserable as I was taught to feel.

By: Sharon

Sharon — Thu, 05 Oct 2023 13:56:10 +0000

I am so happy to have found you and read your book. I had an emotionally absent father and a mother who sent me to my room every time I had a feeling. It has taken me years to understand that I need to tap into my feelings , as feelings not only didn’t matter in my home , but were rejected.

I realize now his this has impacted me and my relationships , both personal
And work . My parents are not open to hearing any of this , as their parenting style is very “ because I said so “.

Thanks for the path and the validation.

By: Jonice

Jonice — Sun, 14 Aug 2022 12:54:19 +0000

In reply to Sheryl. This is wonderful to hear, Sheryl. It is folks like you who keep me doing this work!

By: Sheryl

Sheryl — Tue, 09 Aug 2022 18:35:42 +0000

I am not a practicing therapist or counselor but have a Master’s in applied Psychology. I am blown away by your insight into the struggles I have had all my life. I am going to read much more that you have written and plan to do any exercises you make available as I feel it will be most valuable to me and multitudes of others. Not having a concrete explanation for problems in our lives definitely makes solving those problems very difficult when the problems are born out of emotional neglect. I have dealt with issues by every means possible other than realizing and recovering from the actual absence of the emotional support from parents and grandparents in my childhood. I suffered from purposeful CEN and abuse physically and especially emotionally. I was ridiculed for showing any kind of emotions in most cases. I am alone in a crowd. I rarely ask for anything from anyone, especially family. I usually prefer to be alone but inside I would love to be around someone who understood. I was, if not the only one, at least the most severely emotionally neglected by parents and grandparents and in later childhood by siblings as well. My grands, mostly grandmother, was my primary caretaker and I’ve recently realized she had no skills whatsoever in emotionally supporting children. It’s a really sad realization for me but puts so much perspective on my life. It is even a bit more clear now some of the reasons my mother was the way she was, or wasn’t, throughout my entire life. That is not to say I can forgive her, but it goes a way to maybe understanding the reasons for her abuse and non-engagement. So without even reading your book yet, I feel a huge weight starting to lift from inside, hopeful even at this late stage, to be rid of the emotional chains that have held me back in so many ways. Thank you for that. I will be delving more into CEN through your books etc. Please feel free to send me any materials or suggestions you think might be valuable for my journey. Thank you again.

Sheryl

By: Kristin Alvey

Kristin Alvey — Sun, 05 Dec 2021 19:10:21 +0000

Hi Jonice- As a therapist and an adult who experienced CEN myself, I have found your book so helpful in lining this all out from the perspective of a child and adult who had these experiences. I see a vast majority of my clients who have experienced this and in large part are in therapy due to the impacts of these experiences. I am EMDR trained and working towards certification and have used it to help clients work through these issues and maladaptive belief systems that develop as a result. In response to some of the folks comments about the difficulties accessing some of this info for themselves I’ve found that incorporating IFS into this work and exploring protective parts of self has been very helpful in allowing clients to understand why and how these parts developed in response to CEN experiences. I’m considering running a few groups with my clients specifically focused on their experiences of CEN. I appreciate some of the resources you’ve provided here. Any other suggestions you might have to incorporate into a group setting? Thanks so much-Kristin

By: kristy

kristy — Fri, 09 Apr 2021 19:36:47 +0000

In reply to kristy. I forgot to mention he is diagnosed as a narcissistic sociopath and I don’t remembers any of my childhood and neither does my sister so it is a challenge to do inner child’s work.

By: kristy

kristy — Fri, 09 Apr 2021 19:30:49 +0000

I am so relieved to finally
have found you! I have been seeing counselors etc for over 30 years and nobody helped me! ROE is me and through this discovered my mother is also a narcissist. No surprise I married a phycopath malignant narcissist, we divorced almost 20 years ago and I raised 4 children while dealing with him spending every waking minute of his life trying to destroy me and when I fluked out and called his bluff on something realized this was a successful approach. But myself and my
Kids have been thru hell. They are now out of the house but I see them in your book so clearly. I want to help them so we can end the cycle as now their dad is working them and not thru me now they are over 18. I am terrified what he will do to them. I cannot find (as of yet) any therapists in Canada to help or any mention in your book about the parent with cen and dealing with a narcissist. Yes I protected them from their dad but I was in such a state of survival mode and living in constant fear for their lives I totally emotionally neglected them. Any advice?