Comments on: Reverse Golden Rule: Treat Yourself as You Would Treat Others

By: Jonice

Jonice — Tue, 26 Jul 2022 12:12:27 +0000

In reply to Roy. Dear Roy, I'm so glad you've found these answers. You have plenty of time to heal. Now it's a matter of learning everything you can and doing the work. You can do it.

By: Roy

Roy — Fri, 15 Jul 2022 17:33:38 +0000

Hi Dr. J!, I’m Roy. Thank you soooo much for your book and work! Now I can be saved, thanks! I will be starting on all of your programs here that you offer on your site just as soon as l get to finishing your book and getting all my worksheets in order… but, life just changed for the worse again (pay cut at work, can’t afford by counselor anymore so I found you just in time lol!) so I will be recovering from that as well (l’m a PRO at greiving losses ;-), no worries). Hopefully l can figure out this website to find a counselor to talk to locally here in LA and all the other cool healing stuff you offer (not too tech savvy – 54 also afflicted with O.L.D. lol). Thanks again Doc, talk again soon… Roy

By: Jonice

Jonice — Fri, 23 Nov 2018 15:54:26 +0000

In reply to Preet. Deer Preet, I never recommend forgiving someone for hurting you unless they apologize in a meaningful way that indicates that they will never hurt you that way again. No father should ever his child with a chair. I hope you will talk with a therapist about this traumatic experience. All my best to you!

By: Leah

Leah — Fri, 23 Nov 2018 13:39:16 +0000

My dad still says the golden rule to me every time I allow him to speak to me. it is not a way to live a full life.
He repeats the golden rule and “Remember Leah— you are third. God first, others second, and you always last.”
I am stopping this curse in my own parenting of my children. I am not angry with my dad anymore…. I’m sad that he is so conflicted inside. I know that pain.
Dr Webb, you are opening a world of healing for so many of us. Thank you

By: Preet

Preet — Thu, 22 Nov 2018 03:59:56 +0000

Hi Dr. Webb,
I am 22 yrs old. At 13 yrs I was diagnosed with PCOS . The doctor prescribed birth control pills to regulate my periods. Those tablets had losts of side effects and I experienced a lot of pain during the following period. I said my parents the same. They said we have to experience pain for some good. I took the pills for the next month too.The following period was painful and I found difficulty in doing my basic cores too. I skipped the pills the next month without informing my parents, when they found out I was not taking the pills ,I argued with my dad and he hit me with a chair. I am not able to forget it neither forgive Daddy. Should I forgive him, he never apologized for his behavior and I doubt he ever will.

By: Richard Kram

Richard Kram — Wed, 21 Nov 2018 19:18:16 +0000

I guess I got hit with a double whammy, I actually say those things to others. My wife commented in the past about my mom saying things like “don’t be so stupid”… It never dawned on me how badly that would effect my life. I have a lot of work to do. Thanks for the insight, have a great day.

By: Jon

Jon — Thu, 01 Nov 2018 03:55:35 +0000

I do this so often. It’s almost like there are two of me: the screwup child and the reprimanding adult. And the reprimanding adult HATES the screwup child so much. He won’t give the kid an inch because he is a dirty, nasty little monster and he doesn’t deserve it. I know in my head that this is my past talking, but it doesn’t change the fact that it FEELS true.

By: Jonice Webb

Jonice Webb — Wed, 08 May 2013 17:40:56 +0000

In reply to Cara Rogers. Good for you Cara, that you were able to hear your friend, take her seriously, and make healthy changes in how you treat yourself. And also good for you for having such a great friend.

By: Cara Rogers

Cara Rogers — Wed, 08 May 2013 15:54:15 +0000

I use to do this so often, and one day my friend was like knock it off. I didn’t understand why but she said it her her to hear me talk about myself in that way. I had a hard time stopping that, but with motivation from my BEST FRIEND I now have self confidence and am strong and positive about myself.

By: seltzerrespecttherespect -

seltzerrespecttherespect - — Mon, 04 Mar 2013 03:10:57 +0000

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