Comments on: How Childhood Emotional Neglect Affects Your Relationships

By: Bob

Bob — Sun, 15 Jan 2023 00:07:33 +0000

Jonice,
Reading your book I see myself in so many of the characters you introduce. Fair to say I am sad that at 65yo I am only just finding the resource you have given. However, I intend to use the information you lay out to help myself find and enjoy the remaining years of my life.
Kind regards
Bob, (New Zealand)

By: Jonice

Jonice — Mon, 07 Jun 2021 12:42:08 +0000

In reply to Charlotte. Dear Charlotte, I cannot advise you with such a small amount of info. But one thing I do know is that you cannot help someone who is not wanting and seeking the help. Please protect yourself and be aware there are limits to what you can do.

By: Charlotte

Charlotte — Tue, 01 Jun 2021 22:00:40 +0000

I am trying to get over someone. I married once to him then divorced after only a year. He was very strong manipulater and it All steamed from his neglect from childhood. Personality Disorder. How can I help this man. I know he Loved me or thought he did but with these personality disorders I don’t know if we could Ever make it. Should I just Run. He has hurt me over and over again. We both go to a Strong Christian Church. However it’s more me than him in that but he does attend. How can you help this Narcissism personality problem. Everything I have read so far its hard to beat. I have No Trust with him anymore of the opposite sex

By: Jonice

Jonice — Wed, 27 May 2020 12:08:37 +0000

In reply to Aaron. Dear Aaron, if you feel CEN is an important key to your healing you may want to consult a CEN-trained therapist from my Find a CEN Therapist list on this site. Targeting the CEN directly is very powerful.

By: Aaron

Aaron — Mon, 25 May 2020 13:16:18 +0000

As I read this at age 49, the only thing that I can think is, “I’m f***ed.” This is me 110%. I feel so alone in this world. I’ve been in therapy for years, but will I ever heal from this? It seems like not.

By: Jonice

Jonice — Mon, 09 Dec 2019 00:38:14 +0000

In reply to Be. Dear Be, maybe you're not ready for healing yet. It's OK, as long as you're not unhappy.

By: Be

Be — Sun, 08 Dec 2019 03:34:09 +0000

Well this is unbelievable. I knew something was up and somehow i found cen. Literally every parental description fit my past or upbringing. However my question is, what if I just don’t see the benefit in healing those issues. All the traits described make you stronger and you’ll be able to do work on your own for example as you’ll always work harder, because of being hard on yourself
So in the end I wanna go more in depth about cen and the effects of it yet don’t wanna address oder solve them

By: Jonice

Jonice — Sun, 24 Nov 2019 22:23:40 +0000

In reply to Alegria. Dear Alegria, this is a sign that your next step is to focus on yourself and what you want and need. I hope you will take the steps to heal your CEN so that you'll be able to express your emotions and advocate for yourself in your relationships. It's important!

By: Alegria

Alegria — Sat, 23 Nov 2019 01:07:33 +0000

I’ve never read such a description revealing the roots of my relationship failures. I always feel that I put so much into it and focus on the other person and they think it’s great but I’m not getting what I need out of it at all. I tend to just hope they will care about me. Inevitably it ends all too soon. I can’t fall in love let alone have a long term, fulfilling bond with someone.

By: Nicky

Nicky — Wed, 02 Jan 2019 01:00:47 +0000

Dr. Webb, do you have any advice for the spouses of someone who suffers from CEN? My husband has identified this in himself. I understand how his upbringing has affected him, but sometimes struggle when he gets in a “rut”. We have three children and would both like to make sure they don’t suffer themselves. Thank you.