Comments on: How Covid-19 Social Distancing Recreates Your Childhood Emotional Neglect

By: Lisa

Lisa — Tue, 10 Aug 2021 09:31:35 +0000

Thank you for emailing this it certainly resonates. I’m currently having therapy and she recommended your book. The problem I have is the my feelings get confused, I feel like I’m missing something and I can’t quite connect those deep feelings. I do focus on how old I feel when I have sad emotions to try and connect it and that sometimes helps but I don’t feel emotional about it. I don’t even know if I’m making sense. Anyway, thank you for sharing your knowledge. Lisa

By: Jonice

Jonice — Mon, 09 Aug 2021 14:55:45 +0000

In reply to Marta. Dear Marta, this could be anxiety or depression talking to you. I encourage you to reach out to a therapist if you don't already have one. You deserve to feel better than this!

By: Jonice

Jonice — Mon, 09 Aug 2021 14:52:30 +0000

In reply to Lori. Hello Lori, yes I am well, thank you! It makes total sense that the ons and offs of the pandemic touch on your childhood trauma. Knowing this is what's happening, you may be able to talk with your inner child and reassure her. Remind her that the abuse is over; and that grown-up Lori will pay attention to the pandemic and take all the steps needed to protect her.

By: Marta

Marta — Mon, 09 Aug 2021 13:53:08 +0000

Also ashamed, worse than others, unworthy, ugly, unloved or hated, and like I can’t rely on myself, cause everything’s gonna drown in chaos/I’m going to die.

By: Lori

Lori — Sun, 08 Aug 2021 22:50:44 +0000

Dear Dr Jonice,
This covers what I am feeling lately quite well… Lost, insecure and alone! And when I feel this way, depending on the trigger (oral surgery on Friday did it this time) sometimes I feel very young as I was during the abuse. With the pandemic, cases are starting to go up again here…not outrageous yet but definitely enough to cause concern and talk of further restrictions. I feel alone, and trapped, like I want to run away but who do I run to?
lori (velveteen rabbit from the old site you were on)
PS. I hope you are doing well Jonice.

By: Jonice

Jonice — Sun, 26 Apr 2020 20:36:14 +0000

In reply to KL. I think it's best to read them in sequence if possible.

By: KL

KL — Sat, 25 Apr 2020 20:47:12 +0000

In reply to Jonice. Thank you for your response Jonice. Do I need to read the books in sequence. I am busy and a slow reader but I want to start making changes ASAP.

By: Jonice

Jonice — Sat, 25 Apr 2020 18:37:14 +0000

In reply to YL. Dear YL, it's such a good thing that you're aware of this now and want to address this with your daughter. Lots of considerations go into your question such that I can't address it in this comment. In Running On Empty No More you'll find lots of guidance to help you decide whether and how to talk with your daughter. There are lots of suggestions for how you can change your interactions with her to heal the CEN even without talking with her directly about it. I hope you find it helpful! All my best wishes.

By: YL

YL — Sat, 25 Apr 2020 07:13:16 +0000

You article really resonates with me. I think that I inadvertently emotionally neglected my daughter who I love with all my heart. I started noticing that she’s happier a few months ago.
She seems to be fine at first when she came home but after about 3 weeks, I think Covid-19 Social Distancing is recreating her childhood emotional neglect.

I very recently started to research CEN and just ordered both of your books which I should receive next week. As this would be a new topic for our family, what is the best way to manage my relationship with my daughter at this point? Is this a good time to talk to her about CEN. I am a little concerned about the timing of bringing up this topic during COVID-19

By: Elke

Elke — Thu, 02 Apr 2020 06:43:48 +0000

In reply to Jonice. You have blessed me, Jonice! That's what I want to do -- bless people. The best thing I can give someone is to understand them; it's what puts color into a grayscale heart.