Comments on: How to Identify Childhood Emotional Neglect in Your Clients

By: jind

jind — Tue, 07 Jan 2020 05:37:44 +0000

Hi I suffered from CEN. I am struggling to choose my career because i don’t like to communicate with anyone and bonding with people.
could you please help me with it?

By: Jonice

Jonice — Fri, 02 Nov 2018 18:22:56 +0000

In reply to Sal. Dear Sal, it sounds like there are multiple problems with your marriage. Even if CEN is a part of the picture, it seems there are many other issues on top of it. You may have your answer, and you only need to listen to yourself. Best and warmest wishes to your future happiness.

By: Sal

Sal — Wed, 31 Oct 2018 22:15:33 +0000

Hi, how do you tease out other issues from CEN? I recognize all the signs in my spouse. He was in foster homes until age 6 when his father remarried a woman who turned out to be an emotionally abusive stepmother. My husband was diagnosed with ADHD in his 40s but after taking meds his behavior continued to be troublesome in other ways, almost autistic/ asperger’s, alexithymia, childlike dependency. He was also diagnosed with Nonverbal learning disorder. He lets me take care of most adult responsibilities. He is not like a spouse to me but more like a special needs child. We are at crossroads as he refuses to do most activities I like or be social with me and our 30th anniversary is approaching. If I try to talk about personal issues he starts yawning excessively, rubbing his head, fidgeting, averting his eyes, and barely answers. He has worsened in the last 10 years and there seems to be nothing left of our marriage. I don’t want to spend any more time searching for an answer if there isn’t one.

By: Sandy Ice

Sandy Ice — Wed, 15 Mar 2017 04:22:33 +0000

In reply to Jonice Webb. Thanks for your timely reply and assistance

By: Jonice Webb

Jonice Webb — Tue, 14 Mar 2017 16:35:22 +0000

In reply to Sandy I e. I just added you manually Sandy! I added the ski201473 address. Sorry there were problems.

By: Sandy I e

Sandy I e — Mon, 13 Mar 2017 10:16:58 +0000

I tried to sign up for testing but rejected by my e mail addresses:
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By: Empty

Empty — Fri, 12 Sep 2014 23:23:53 +0000

….and when you made sure you parented in the complete opposite ways of your parents,,,when you give your children and husband all the attention and love they deserve,and then some….and when you are self-aware enough to know that you are a victim of CEN, have achieved all you can,,,,but can’t be with your 81 year old mom, even though she has guilt and knows she did not do a good job due to her own emotional illness….and although you have compassion and forgive her,HOW DO YOU SPEND TIME WITH HER WITHOUT COMING HOME AND GOING BACKWARDS and NEED MEDICATION TO SLEEP…how do you not become hopeless…and when even your therapist doesn’t understand you can’t do cognitive therapy when at times you feel imobile…and yes my children and husband have all their needs met,and more,,,i can die tomorrow and know I was a good mother….Thank God

By: eve

eve — Sun, 29 Dec 2013 06:23:15 +0000

Thank you thank you thank you an infinite number of times that i cant even count. Your original article about the fatal flaw was the last brick in my personal wall. When i read it, it was like the last thing i needed to hear in a good way. Tho i am a survivor of horrid child abuse, marital abuse and abuse from many areas of life, I had been looking for the one brick to pull out of the wall, for decades. It was the one area of emptiness I had been dancing unknowingly around almost a lifetime.
My neglectful mother never hugged me,never kissed me, never showed me an y affection as well as abuse. I had remembered the anger, the intense indescribable pain, that i felt as a young child when she wouldn’t acknowledge the simple child affection i wanted to give, and teh anger i felt at that rejection. I never would have thought a child could feel such a depth of anger and resentment. Then I ran across your article. I cant remember how, but the click happened. Now, i know what that brick was. I have a term , a word, to describe it with. Now i no longer revolve around a complete unknown.

By: Jonice Webb

Jonice Webb — Sat, 31 Aug 2013 18:29:18 +0000

In reply to Elizabeth. Hi Elizabeth, Thanks for sharing this. I'm so glad to be able to validate the truth and seriousness of your CEN! Take care, and all the best.

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Fri, 23 Aug 2013 04:13:01 +0000

Hi Jonice,
Thank you! I just discovered your website today and I think I am a typical product of CEN. I kind of figured it out, but still had serious doubts, guilt and functioning problems. It seemed that I’m exaggerating, that it was not real abuse and I am just “weak”. It’s very helpful to read that I am not making it up.