Comments on: How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

By: Chris

Chris — Fri, 28 Aug 2020 10:42:01 +0000

I am 56 and just starting to see and understand the devastating effects of being alone as a child but in a family. Seperated from them and seperated from myself. I can see thats why I am still alone now. Thats where it came from Emotional Child Neglect and I never knew it until now.

May I suggest Jonice you do a you tube presentation titled “Why am I alone” and link it in with the possibility the person might have suffered from Childhood Emotional Neglect. It might just save a person decades of wasted time continuing in the same “alone” pattern learnt from childhood.

Your website is so helpful and very well laid out. Many thanks. Chris

By: Vaz

Vaz — Sat, 08 Aug 2020 11:48:25 +0000

You know how they streamline kids into classes, like if they’re good or not so great at math? There needs to be a class for us were we can learn this stuff at like age 8 and not have our lives ruined. T_T

By: Jonice

Jonice — Tue, 04 Aug 2020 12:39:41 +0000

In reply to Sabrina. That's wonderful, Sabrina. You are describing healthy self-esteem and a healthy regard for others.

By: Sabrina

Sabrina — Mon, 03 Aug 2020 17:12:08 +0000

This is a fantastic article. Very helpful. I especially liked the part of highly valuing yourself. It helped me see it in another way. I was brought up to “esteem others better then yourself”, but thought it meant I was nothing. Not true. I can fully value and believe in myself, while extending the same courtesy to others in a humble (not needing to defend myself) manner. The more I learn to value myself, the less angry, resentful, and controlling I become towards others.

By: Jonice

Jonice — Mon, 03 Aug 2020 13:30:34 +0000

In reply to Rabia. Dear Rabia, comparing can be used as a means of controlling people, unfortunately. I'm glad you are aware of the manipulation now and are protecting yourself and your family.

By: Rabia

Rabia — Mon, 03 Aug 2020 05:03:37 +0000

My mother in law all the time compares her daughter with me, plus she has great pride in being beautiful, material possessions and she does a lot of favouritism… Initially I can’t recognise these things and due to these comparisons I get very upset… Now I m being more assertive and Confident about myself and my family

By: Jonice

Jonice — Thu, 30 Jul 2020 12:33:02 +0000

In reply to Liz. Dear Liz, I'm so glad! Thank you for helping others learn about CEN. Take care.

By: Liz

Liz — Mon, 27 Jul 2020 08:37:31 +0000

Thank you, Dr Webb, for your important work. Your books are brilliant and life changing. They have explained so much to me and I recommend them where I can.

By: Jonice

Jonice — Mon, 27 Jul 2020 00:32:46 +0000

In reply to Amy. Dear Amy, thanks for sharing your comparisons. I hope you will work on these! They are both, no doubt, harming you.

By: Jules

Jules — Sun, 26 Jul 2020 17:45:20 +0000

I’m 56 and going through some sort of awaking I my core values and what made me ill stemming from my childhood and how I can have enough emotional resilience now to carry on with my life. Jules