Comments on: How Fathers Can Change the World One Child at a Time

By: Jonice

Jonice — Thu, 27 Jun 2019 13:58:11 +0000

In reply to Christoffer. Dear Christoffer, thank you for your message. It is a great inspiration to me to read your experience. I will keep doing what I do, and I hope you'll keep using it so well. All my best to you!

By: Christoffer

Christoffer — Tue, 25 Jun 2019 06:30:06 +0000

Hi Jonice! I just really wanted to say thank you. Reading your stuff has enlightened so much of why I have been feeling the way I have (empty, unworthy of love, lost in life) for so long. I have been struggling with depression and self-harm for a long time and it was after an especially horrible relationship (with a girl who probably suffered from CEN herself) that my life as I knew it just came crashing down. I’m still fairly young, turning 30, but it is horrible to feel like I have wasted my most energetic and foundation-laying years chasing validation and safety while ignoring my deepest self and slowly killing off my soul. I was however lucky enough to soon after the breakup stumble across your writings, and every time I read anything you write my mood lightens and I can once again hope for a better future. I still struggle a lot with many old behavioral patterns but at least I recognize them for the most part now. It’s crazy to think that someone across the Atlantic Ocean has been able to help me more than all the different therapists I have seen over the years, albeit sporadically (probably been afraid of asking for help having been let down too many times by the ones who were supposed to unconditionally have my back, as in true CEN fashion). Anyway, my deepest most heartfelt love and thanks. You’re really making a hell of a difference in today’s world and you just might have saved my life. Thank you so much.

By: Jonice

Jonice — Fri, 21 Jun 2019 15:53:05 +0000

In reply to Andrew Jackson. Way to go Andrew! You are an inspiration. Thank you for sharing!

By: Jonice

Jonice — Fri, 21 Jun 2019 15:49:04 +0000

In reply to Virupaksha Devaramane. Dear Dr. Devaramane, I very much appreciate your kind words. Thank you so much!

By: Jonice

Jonice — Fri, 21 Jun 2019 15:47:23 +0000

In reply to Frank DeRosa. It is realistic! Start healing now, and every step you take will benefit you.

By: Jonice

Jonice — Fri, 21 Jun 2019 15:45:48 +0000

In reply to Susan crago. Dear Susan, please consider seeing a therapist from the Find A CEN Therapist Page or enroll in the Fuel Up For Life Program. You can heal.

By: Jonice

Jonice — Fri, 21 Jun 2019 15:44:30 +0000

In reply to Donna. Yes. It will improve your quality of life. And it will affect all those around you, especially your children, even though they are grown and living elsewhere.

By: Jonice

Jonice — Fri, 21 Jun 2019 15:43:39 +0000

In reply to Mette. I'm so glad Mette. Thanks for letting me know!

By: Jonice

Jonice — Fri, 21 Jun 2019 15:43:23 +0000

In reply to Greg Mattiussi. You're welcome Greg!

By: Susan

Susan — Wed, 19 Jun 2019 15:15:47 +0000

I can really connect with CEN and I know understand why I felt closer to my father than mother. Like so many fathers of the 50s and 60s, Dad wasn’t home a good deal of the time. Affection was not readily shared between any family members. However, I clearly have many memories of Dad being concerned about me – crossing the street, when I scraped my knee, overdosed, pregnant with my first child. I never felt that Mom was concerned about me – she had narcissistic traits – She was a good mother; however, I don’t recall that she was concerned that I hurt myself – I was a headbanger and a wrist biter as a small child.