Comments on: Raised By Parents With Low Emotional Intelligence

By: Jonice

Jonice — Wed, 05 Aug 2020 13:45:39 +0000

In reply to Steph. Dear Steph, many narcissistic people have very low EI because they aren't aware of feelings at all. Other narcissists, if they also have sociopathic traits, have a high EI which they may use to manipulate others' feelings. Either way, as their child, it will definitely feel like a struggle.

By: Steph

Steph — Tue, 04 Aug 2020 14:13:33 +0000

This article is my life. I’m 38 and struggle because of it. My question is, can one have low emotional intelligence and have narcissistic traits as well? One of my parents seems to have this my entire life. It’s really been a struggle.

By: Jonice

Jonice — Sun, 11 Aug 2019 21:20:50 +0000

In reply to Mary B.. You can absolutely change Mary B. You only have to want it badly enough to do the work.

By: Mary B.

Mary B. — Sun, 11 Aug 2019 13:21:42 +0000

So true. Then I married a man who had more emotionally ignorant parents. He is in a different world most of the time. I was told many times as a child that I was “not important”; he (my father) was important. I’m used to being neglected emotionally and am almost a total introvert. “I love mankind; can’t stand people.” Have grown used to it. At 68 years old, I’m not going to change. So happy I know the truth. I can deal with it.

By: Maria

Maria — Fri, 13 Jul 2018 09:08:49 +0000

In reply to Norbert. Dear Norbert, I am so sad for you that there doesn't seem to have been a reply to your comments. It sounds like you want to be heard and seen just where you are. Although your therapist has the best intentions if you are not happy talk to her and if there is no change. Change your therapist. I really recommend Internal Family system therapy. It also coaches you with support to look after the parts of you that your parents couldn't and is very gentle. Good Luck

By: Norbert

Norbert — Thu, 28 Sep 2017 23:49:40 +0000

I have written to Dr. Webb before but don’t remember about what. My wife and I are both Adult Children of Holocaust Survivors. My wife insists that she “can take care of herself” and does not need therapy. I have been in therapy on and off for thirty years. My last therapist said she was treating me for CEN. One of the issues she was trying to work on with me was “owning my emotion”. I do not even understand what that means let alone doing that. The way I saw her type of therapy was that she did not bother to know me by listening to how I see things and deal with them. She wanted me to learn how to deal with emotions before she even understood me. I do not know if I am just wrong?