Comments on: Self-Discipline Season has Begun

By: Jonice

Jonice — Fri, 02 Nov 2018 18:32:28 +0000

In reply to Jon Stafford. Dear Jon, if your mom was over-controlling, then becoming the complete opposite of what she wanted is just another way of allowing her to control you. It's important to cultivate your own inner voice that you respond to instead, drowning out the voice of your mother.

By: Jon Stafford

Jon Stafford — Mon, 29 Oct 2018 20:50:12 +0000

My mother spent most of my childhood making me do stuff I didn’t want to do. All it did is make me resentful. As a result I struggle with motivation today. I don’t really want to DO anything. I have no internal drive to accomplish anything or leave my mark on the world. Quite the opposite, in fact. I would prefer to leave no evidence that I was ever here.

By: Sue F

Sue F — Mon, 29 Oct 2018 01:12:27 +0000

I might not have liked being told what to do when I was growing up but some of these things I have carried into adulthood have served me well. I like to be disciplined. I like to know that I have put effort into my appearance or that my house looks nice and tidy or that all my bills have been paid on time. It gives me a feeling of satisfaction. For me that’s what being disciplined is all about.

By: P.D.Reader

P.D.Reader — Tue, 23 Oct 2018 03:27:39 +0000

OK, so here’s my question. My parents maybe OVERdid this for me, with a lot of screaming and yelling, and much use of the flyswatter and the belt. For most of my life, I grit my teeth and grit my teeth and did what I was “supposed to” like a good little soldier.

The problem was, all the “supposed to” came from outside, landing me in a career I wasn’t happy in, and a lot of other things that other people thought looked good from the outside, but didn’t feel all that good to me.

I ended up separating from that family, and now that I’m alone and free, I can’t apply myself to discipline on anything *I* want to do.

WTF? I can do it for praise or to avoid punishment from an unhealthy family if I can dream rebelliously of what I’d rather be doing instead, but now that I CAN do what I’d rather be doing instead…I can’t make myself do it.

If you can explain that one…I’d be much obliged.

(And I have little doubt you can.)