Comments on: How To Overcome Abandonment Issues From Childhood

By: Angela

Angela — Tue, 22 Apr 2025 23:50:35 +0000

this sounds like my childhood. but add in that I believed I would die at 18 and I don’t know why. I know I have cptsd, ptsd, anxiety, depression, high functioning autism (aspergers), sensory integration dysfunction, .. not sure what else. but it’s been… difficult.

By: Danny

Danny — Fri, 03 May 2024 14:41:48 +0000

i answered yes to 21 of those questions posed on your questionnaire. i guess i qualify for CEN lol. my mom left me before i reached 1 year old. my dad dropped me off at his mom’s house after finding that mom was gone. thankfully, my grandmother was a wonderful person who ‘took me to raise when i was a baby’. i am forever grateful for my grandmother, but at the same time i suffered through some very difficult emotions from not being like the other kids who had a mom and dad as well as the promises broken by them throughout my childhood. anyway, as
life went on, i took measures into my own hands to deal with the emotions. mainly anger, because no one was gonna ‘get to me’ (emotionally) again. my
mom and dad were in and out (mostly out) of my life. growing up i got so sick and tired of being down about my ‘parents’ making promises that they rarely, if ever, kept. to this day, at 58 flipping years old, i have trust issues with people (i mostly just shrug them off now), low self esteem, and feelings of insecurity. maybe it’s time to deal with this stuff, even though i thought that i already
had done so by throwing up a wall in my mid teens so that no one could ‘get to me’ again. thanks for listening.

By: Jonice

Jonice — Sun, 30 Jul 2023 23:16:47 +0000

In reply to Dave. Dear Dave, I hope you will protect yourself emotionally from this toxic situation. I encourage you to seek a therapist's guidance to help you take care of yourself first and foremost.

By: Dave

Dave — Sat, 29 Jul 2023 01:54:46 +0000

My mom in 1976 met a man ,I was age 12 , then one day I came home from 6th grade and the police were taking my father away,he never came back to the house

About a week later my mom moved the man she met (bar)into the house. All summer he sat in back yard drinking gin . He was 42(with 2 kids) my mom 36. At the end of summer 1976 ,my mom sold the house I was living in and then moved 3000 miles away to California with the proceeds and her new man (he left his 2 kids)

I then moved in with my father,who was never home , my older sister age 18 moved away also. After about 43 years Mom age 81 came back from california about 3 years ago with her husband (the man she met 1976) because he had dementia now (he is in his 80s).
My older sister refuses to visit mom ,I do weekly and help her with some money but every time I visit mom ,she says :i don’t know why I moved back to this lame town. I always respond with well leaving me at 12 was not very nice,
I became very shy over the years because of that I think . Mom then states I don’t want to hear that ,poor little you ( I’m age 60 now)What is appropriate way to respond to those statements?

By: Mr too

Mr too — Thu, 08 Jun 2023 20:24:38 +0000

In reply to Riley Buell. Hey Riley , I was your age when my dad left me . He had divorced my mom a couple years before and was living about 2 hrs away from us . Every 2 weeks I took a bus then walked to his place for a crappy visit . 3 weeks before my 15th birthday I got there for my normal visit and he meets me outside his place . Tells me not to go inside and he took me for a walk around the block . Basically he told me he was moving away with his girlfriend and that I wouldn’t be seeing him much anymore . Quote “you don’t need me anymore right ?well let’s put it this way I don’t need you so it’s not fair to be one sided “ “ you are getting in the way of my new relationship, she doesn’t have kids and it’s not right to burden her with you “ “ at least your sister knows to give me space “ . That was the general conversation before he drove me back home the same hour I had got there . I think the thing I remember the most was him telling me we would do something together on a special day just for him and I before he left . He told me to think of the one thing I wanted to do with him and we were going to do it. Well long story short he was long gone before that day happened. He left mid month instead of the end of the month ….. “happy 15th birthday “ … worst moments of my life . I’m 50 years old now , I have a son your age and I can tell you that I love him and cherish every moment I spend with him. I’ve been his dad , friend, sports coach and mentor in life . You got the same road ahead of you that I lived through . It’s not easy , the boat gets a bit rocky and there will be scary times and doubt …. But I’ll tell you this …. If you are a good person, can learn to let it go and do good to others a wonderful life is coming. And you will deserve every moment.

By: sarah

sarah — Fri, 21 Apr 2023 03:24:27 +0000

My father never claimed me as his child. I was abandoned by my father as a baby and although I don’t know him, I still have many pent-up emotions that are rooted in his leaving me and my mother. I had resolved never to talk to him or his side of the family ever because I connected with him when I was 18 and asked for answers as to why I was not wanted by him and he never gave me an answer, I was filled with rage and that rage led me to never want any part of him in my life. I kept that rage for 5 years and then not too long ago I found out I have a little brother from his side of the family and he’s only 3 years younger I felt jealous of the fact that how come he was wanted but not me and that anger mixed with jealousy and now I don’t know what to do. I’m trying to seek some type of help to help me move through these ugly emotions, I don’t want to hurt anymore.

By: Cass

Cass — Tue, 14 Mar 2023 04:17:45 +0000

In reply to John. John, I’m honestly sorry to hear this. I hope you can overcome the neglect one day!

By: dave

dave — Fri, 24 Feb 2023 06:13:11 +0000

A father abandoned his child to marry a young Filipino 20+ his junior. got it bad depending where you sit

By: Jill

Jill — Wed, 08 Feb 2023 11:40:07 +0000

In reply to John. So sad. People often think about themselves, their needs and wants but do not see consequences, how it affects others from their selfish actions

By: Jonice

Jonice — Mon, 07 Nov 2022 13:11:51 +0000

In reply to Leidy. I'm sorry that happened to you Leidy, and to you also, Melody. It's so important to protect yourself from harmful people, even (especially) when it's your own parents. They hold extra power to deeply harm us.