Comments on: The 6 Step Boundary Building Exercise

By: Jonice

Jonice — Thu, 18 Jun 2020 14:27:54 +0000

In reply to Fred. Dear Fred, I encourage you to see a CEN therapist from my list to discuss this. It's important to get a professional opinion from someone who gets to know you in detail and depth.

By: Fred

Fred — Thu, 18 Jun 2020 14:10:25 +0000

Thank you so much Jonice for this, and all your other, offerings.
I’m wondering about the thing you wrote that “People with Childhood Emotional Neglect often have an overly rigid Internal Boundary, which blocks off their emotions too completely. ” and that “If one of your parents had a personality disorder, your Internal and External Boundaries may be overly porous, or too flexible” and I’m really curious if this is a consistant pattern? I have always had too porous boundaries and am working hard on strengthening them, but I never thought that my dad might have a personality disorder. But after I read this I’ve been thinking, and it could absolutely be the case. Is this something I should consider more, given my porous boundaries? Thank you again, for your books and this website and all that you offer.
Fred

By: Shellie

Shellie — Sun, 17 May 2020 15:08:16 +0000

In reply to Mary. Thank you!! I just had to FINALLY speak up to my mother 2 weeks ago. She is the father in the example with the offhand comments every chance she gets. I had enough. Im 53...enough!!

By: Jonice

Jonice — Thu, 30 Apr 2020 14:30:51 +0000

In reply to Mary. Great question, Mary. I surely could have included the speaking up part. I do sometimes have to leave certain things out of a blog to make a point in the space allotted. But speaking up would definitely be a step toward setting the boundary. Thanks for pointing that out!

By: Mary

Mary — Wed, 29 Apr 2020 19:10:32 +0000

In the example given, shouldn’t you speak up to your father or said person and explain your hurt and feelings around their comments? How long are you supposed to keep taking the remarks before it becomes too much? If someone doesn’t know they are hurting you, how can they stop? I understand they may very well not change though!!

By: Jonice

Jonice — Wed, 17 Jul 2019 16:41:30 +0000

In reply to Nan Hamilton. Dear Nan, you sound like someone who has faced the pain from your childhood. Kudos! Yes you can take my Therapist Trainings online. And if you are a certified coach you can be listed as a CEN therapist. You can learn all about the trainings on the Programs Page of this website. Thanks you for your support of my work!

By: Nan Hamilton

Nan Hamilton — Tue, 16 Jul 2019 00:32:50 +0000

Hi Jonice, I am reading your first book, after taking the quiz 😉 and as an adoptee into an alcoholic (dad also an adoptee) family that fell apart while I was in grade school this is feeling like the proverbial cup of cold water after living in a desert for decades! I have done so much work in the midst of almost a decades of one loss after another now entering my Second Adulthood as an Intuitive Transition Coach for baby boomers. Is it possible to attend one of your training sessions as a life Coach? I am deeply drawn to people who are finding their Way forward after loss and ptsd type journeys. I’ve already recommended your book to one of my client’s and know it is helping him SEE himself and his Life from a strong view for the very first time.

By: Jonice

Jonice — Sun, 14 Jul 2019 20:57:05 +0000

In reply to Judy. I'm so glad Judy. Thanks for sharing!

By: Judy

Judy — Sat, 13 Jul 2019 03:06:59 +0000

Hi,
I was encouraged to see others who didn’t know what career they wanted!!
When I left high school I told my only living parent…I wanted to go to an agricultural college…their reaction…caused me to put up a very thick glass brick wall!! Some light got in…but the world was very distorted!! I was the Scape goat…I now know…other the golden child…. And with a WW 2, PTSD parent, who became Alcoholic… I was kind of a mess!!! the 12 step program started my recovery…I could accept …ACOA!!
Your work Jonice, is filling in detail and helping me see myself… And others in a new and caring way!!
Thank you!!! And Blessings aplenty too!!!
J.

By: Jonice

Jonice — Thu, 27 Jun 2019 14:00:18 +0000

In reply to Denise. Dear Denise, this is a sign that you need help and support in your healing. Please see the Programs page of this website as well as the Find A CEN Therapist page. There is plenty of support for you, and it's a sign of strength to use it. I hope you will!