Comments on: The Best Kept Secret to Getting Unstuck: Face Your Core Feelings

By: Jonice

Jonice — Mon, 13 May 2019 13:28:20 +0000

In reply to Rachel. Good work Rachel! Keep doing what you're doing.

By: Rachel

Rachel — Mon, 13 May 2019 08:32:48 +0000

Thank you for the two articles that I’ve just read plus related comments. I did not intend to spend time reading but it has been life giving and so fruitful. I have been studying and continue to study online for a Buddhist based mindfulness course and the combination of this and much needed ideas from CEN are working and uncovering things that have been holding me back. Recently I have been feeling totally challenged and lifted by some responses to a huge climate change, and experiencing own changes and still recovering from a painful accident,having to accept a rule of defining and asking for treatment rather than waiting for it. I continue with a therapist in a week-this gives me a chance to continue this!….

By: Jonice

Jonice — Wed, 08 May 2019 00:41:42 +0000

In reply to Maria. I'm glad Maria!

By: Maria

Maria — Tue, 07 May 2019 16:33:31 +0000

I really enjoyed this information on the Core Feelings xx

By: Jonice

Jonice — Mon, 06 May 2019 18:55:53 +0000

In reply to mira. Dear Mira, CEN is not similar to borderline personality. One of the main differences is that CEN people have low levels of emotions, whereas BPD is very emotional with swings between extremes. I can try to write a blog post on this.

By: Jonice

Jonice — Mon, 06 May 2019 18:48:09 +0000

In reply to Tim R. Dear Tim, you are describing Childhood Emotional Neglect. I'm sorry you went through all this as a child. Yes you can do those exact things. Please do learn more about CEN via this blog and/or read the book Running On Empty.

By: Tim R

Tim R — Mon, 06 May 2019 09:20:33 +0000

Hi Dr Webb. This is so insightful, thank you. At this moment I’m feeling such intense anxiety it’s hard to not cry. I’ve been like this for years, and on and off anti depressants and other meds to help me cope. So I’m sitting here with this terrible feeling but I can’t be certain about it’s source. There are obvious potential sources from my childhood. Being given up by my mother, and placed in a children’s home from a very young age, adopted, repeated frequent surgeries throughout my childhood and raised by adoptive parents who only wanted me to be brave, stoic and not show fear. But despite really trying, I cannot recall my emotions at those times, it’s as if I’ve blocked out my feelings as a child. So I seem unable to connect these unending feelings of fear and anxiety to emotions in my past. I exist in an emotional limbo, with overwhelming feelings of fear. Is there a way to break down these walls and connect emotionally with my past so maybe I can start to work with my core emotions?

By: Jonice

Jonice — Wed, 01 May 2019 16:19:29 +0000

In reply to Bex. Dear Bex, those moments when you can't talk are probably the ones where you need to simply feel. Can you go back to your therapist (or find a new CEN Therapist from the list on my website) and ask them to sit with you while you feel your feelings? If your therapist can do that, you may find it gets you somewhere.

By: Jonice

Jonice — Wed, 01 May 2019 16:12:49 +0000

In reply to Ben J. Dear Ben, research shows us that when drugs are involved, it's important to deal with your addiction first and foremost. The drugs are, in part, a way to cope with feelings. So it's not possible to access your true feelings until your addiction is under control. I strongly encourage you to deal with your addiction!

By: mira

mira — Wed, 01 May 2019 14:30:00 +0000

I Identify with every one of your articles and they have been extremely eye opening for me As well as the books (purchased both of them). I’m starting to wonder if my CEN though is more severe and could be diagnosed as BPD. Could you clarify the difference?