Comments on: The Most Important Relationship Of All

By: Jonice

Jonice — Mon, 03 Dec 2018 15:54:16 +0000

In reply to Michael (Myke). Dear Myke, this sounds like it may have some possibilities. I recommend you see the book Running On Empty No More: Transform Your Relationships. It describes exactly how to approach your dad to talk about CEN in a non-blaming way. You can find the book anywhere, including libraries or Amazon or bookstores everywhere.

By: Robin L

Robin L — Fri, 30 Nov 2018 19:31:36 +0000

I love your work and these small articles help so much. Thank you for what you do. It’s life saving!

By: Michael (Myke)

Michael (Myke) — Fri, 30 Nov 2018 18:13:02 +0000

I have ADHD and TBI. I also suffer from CEN. How could I go about talking to my father who was and is emotionally neglectful, but wants to be there for me?

By: Jonice

Jonice — Thu, 29 Nov 2018 00:28:34 +0000

In reply to Amber. Yes it is. "Outdoing" or overshadowing a child's emotions is one way to emotionally neglect her.

By: Jonice

Jonice — Thu, 29 Nov 2018 00:27:51 +0000

In reply to Rose Cook. I just added you to the list Rose. Best wishes to you!

By: Rachel

Rachel — Tue, 27 Nov 2018 20:43:51 +0000

In reply to suzanne.

Suzanne-I understand what you’re saying, and the frustration sometimes of being quite misunderstood.Maybe that kind of “shallow” perception is a kind that I would have had, coming from a younger place of more limited and more unquestioned experience.
What keeps me going is discovery that is meaningful to me.
So,ultimately, I’m not at the answer (yet!),I am still juggling, trying to find a healthy-feeling balance between the me stuff, shared stuff and other stuff. And that,for me, brings a big helping of consciousness into all relationships.
Ooh, this isn’t what I expected!
Best Wishes!

By: Rose Cook

Rose Cook — Tue, 27 Nov 2018 04:25:44 +0000

Please place me on your email list to receive your mailings directly: rosedoncook@gmail.com. Often I carry your 2 books
along to SHOW to others!

Thank you!

By: Amber

Amber — Mon, 26 Nov 2018 22:22:04 +0000

Is it possible to have been raised in a family flooded with emotions…but also to have had my emotions squelched and learned they don’t matter? I can relate to both.

By: Andrea

Andrea — Mon, 26 Nov 2018 18:03:48 +0000

I have CEN, and believe I basically recreated my family of origin relationships in my marriage. My husband has very little warmth and seems to have very little empathy towards me. He does not have Asperger’s but I think he has CEN as well, but is not interested in learning about it. We are in couples therapy (for the 3rd time), but I’m getting more and more hopeless about our ever having the kind of relationship I long for. Any advice or recommendations?

By: Jonice

Jonice — Mon, 26 Nov 2018 13:59:43 +0000

In reply to Alisha. Dear Alisha, I'm sorry you're in this situation. Since you can't change other people, one thing you can do is work on understanding yourself. Anger that intense usually is rooted in childhood. I hope you will keep working on yourself.