Comments on: The Unique Effects of Childhood Emotional Neglect on Your Happiness

By: Jonice

Jonice — Fri, 10 Apr 2020 18:33:37 +0000

In reply to Chidinma. Dear Chidinma, yes, HSP's are more sensitive to CEN in their childhood home. It's a little like having your superpower ignored. Perhaps you can stop thinking about helping others with CEN and keep your focus on yourself for now. How will you heal? What can you do for yourself?

By: Chidinma

Chidinma — Fri, 10 Apr 2020 08:16:14 +0000

Thank you Dr. Jonice. Is CEN more powerful in people with highly sensitive nature?

The major challenge with me is that I find it hard to self focus. I have alot of big dreams I want to achieve but it’s all difficult but the irony is I can motivate others to fulfill theirs and then I start comparing myself with them.

I hope to overcome this and help other Nigerians/Africans deal with CEN.

By: Jonice

Jonice — Fri, 28 Feb 2020 20:04:20 +0000

In reply to Debbie. Dear Debbie, I recommend you see a therapist yourself to help you sort through all this and make sense of it. I am so sorry you are being hurt so much.

By: Debbie

Debbie — Tue, 25 Feb 2020 00:08:15 +0000

I have a husband that has CEN although he don’t realize it! He has stated he is unhappy and I think he blames me!!!! I am not his reason we had many many many happy years n the last 3 have been emotionally upsetting! I felt my husband pulling away constantly and I didn’t know how to stop it so it turned into fighting n I now read it was the worse way to handle this! I wish I could take it all back becaise one month ago he filed for divorce! I am devastated. All I wanTed was my husband to be happy n I was trying so hard n now I blame me! Will he ever realize this. He does go to therapy n she knew we were struggling but I feel she was making him only care about himself! I am truly devastated and I am so sad cuZ exactly the opposite happened! Any advice. ??

By: Ana

Ana — Mon, 24 Feb 2020 18:17:37 +0000

Dr. Jonice, thank you.

By: Jonice

Jonice — Mon, 24 Feb 2020 15:37:08 +0000

In reply to Olivia. Dear Olivia, I hope you'll work on this self-blame. As a young woman, you did what you could with what you had. The thing to focus on instead is this: What can I do now for myself? It's all about now.

By: MtVelveteen

MtVelveteen — Sun, 23 Feb 2020 20:50:58 +0000

Excellent info, as usual! I'm thinking that the work of Peter Levine, and some of his somatic interventions that he discovered in the 70's would be a great compliment to your work, and that of other CEN therapists:

By: Olivia

Olivia — Sun, 23 Feb 2020 18:18:32 +0000

I’m working hard on #3 but the others are very difficult.
I’m really feeling the lack of deep relationships in my life, I have one supportive person and that’s it. I try and try, but it’s so, so hard to make deep connections, there’s hardly anyone in my life I’ve known from childhood for example. No long term supportive people.
I really don’t want to practice mindfulness and feeling in the present moment as I feel trapped in my life and want to make changes but how? I have no job, no money, few friends, no way out tbh. I’d rather look to the future and hope I can find a way to enjoy my life.
Self blame- and that’s the big thing in my life. Why didn’t I study hard for a great career when I was young, earn a good wage and now I’d be enjoying a comfortable old age. Stupid stupid stupid, what was I thinking as a young woman? Now I have no job, no wage, no comfortable life.
I just feel like a waste of space tbh…