Comments on: Three Tips to Teach Your Child Emotional Intelligence

By: Jonice

Jonice — Tue, 02 Oct 2018 17:10:26 +0000

In reply to Vicki. What a great story Vicki. Thanks for sharing it as it will help others see the value of dealing with their feelings too. Keep up the good work!

By: Vicki

Vicki — Tue, 02 Oct 2018 03:44:01 +0000

I had an amazing breakthrough today because of deliberately sitting with all those awful feelings, differentiating old roots from the current emotions of an issue 3 days ago. It took lots of checking in and journaling, and lost sleep, but this morning I dealt with a cheating student in a quiet and compassionate way, not judging, just being realistic and sitting beside him to get him doing his work. No anger or argument about reporting it followed; the kid understood. Then, a coworker overheard my teaching a rowdy bunch so that they settled down and worked hard. She complimented me in front of my boss in very specific ways. I was so moved that I gave her a hug (we’re well acquainted). My boss then gave me a side hug and validated me by saying how glad he is that I’m teaching there and am such a diverse asset handling so many different subjects. Right now, I still feel the validation, the honest caring of both of them, and can fully accept their compliments! My whole life has been spent deflecting praise and compliments as not necessary; it just may be that my love languages are physical touch and words of affirmation. And these were healthy expressions of both. Is this how other people feel? Wow! It’s painful when bad, but fabulous when good!

By: Francesca

Francesca — Tue, 12 Jul 2016 22:58:19 +0000

I have never understood many of the feelings that have swept over and around me throughout my life. After reading your book, it is crystal clear to me why. After a lifetime of not feeling my emotions, the long hard journey back to the place of origin has begun, and while I struggle with anger towards my parents, I must remind myself constantly that they, too, were raised by people with little emotional intelligence.

Thank you for your incredible work. Thank you.