Comments on: Were You Raised in a Passive-Aggressive Family?

By: Jonice

Jonice — Fri, 08 Aug 2025 12:37:56 +0000

In reply to mayank. Hi Mayank, it's under The Book Tab on this site. Scroll down and you'll see the link to download the change sheets.

By: mayank

mayank — Fri, 01 Aug 2025 06:44:32 +0000

where do I find the change sheets you have mentioned about in the book ?
I can not find them on the website, can you please help me with a direct link for that?

By: Launa

Launa — Sat, 24 Feb 2024 15:30:24 +0000

Everything you post just screams out to me. My family was always uncomfortable with each other but I didnt see it. I could sure feel it. My sister was the youngest and she was neglected the most, however…I was too. She died of alcoholism. My older brother was a huge bully who always got what he wanted. Now he could use my help, because he is alone and sick. Truthfully…I dont feel much compassion for him and have no desire to help him.

By: Jonice

Jonice — Fri, 24 Nov 2023 14:10:05 +0000

In reply to Anne. Dear Anne, please check my Find a CEN Therapist Page on this website, in the dropdown menu under "Help." I've written lots of things for spouses, including my book Running On Empty No More: Transform Your Relationships. You can find it in most libraries and online.

By: Anne

Anne — Wed, 22 Nov 2023 00:44:55 +0000

Have you written anything for spouses of those with CEN? Can you recommend a therapist in the Denver/Boulder area who can help with CEN in a marriage?
Thank you.

By: Catherine

Catherine — Wed, 03 Mar 2021 23:12:29 +0000

Thank you again for another spot-on article! Anger in my family was always underground; just under the surface. As a teen, I had the misfortune to be the first to express it. (I was being confined to the house for the summer!) Well I paid a severe price for expressing my anger; I had been adopted and was told by my mother “I can always send you back.” That was the end of a secure life for me. From then until my mid sixties I was terrified of confrontation and to my detriment avoided it as much as I could. It wasn’t really a conscious decision, I just became petrified of further trauma and practiced avoidance, literally running away in some cases.

By: Jonice

Jonice — Sun, 29 Sep 2019 17:21:15 +0000

In reply to Johnny. Yes, that's a good book. Thanks for suggesting it!

By: Johnny

Johnny — Sun, 29 Sep 2019 03:23:34 +0000

In reply to Jonice. What about “Your Perfect Right”?

By: Jonice

Jonice — Mon, 26 Aug 2019 17:42:58 +0000

In reply to Melissa. Yes, very true Melissa. There is great power in naming something and understanding it.

By: Melissa

Melissa — Mon, 26 Aug 2019 00:35:57 +0000

Dr. Webb,
You’re articles have helped me more in a couple of the months than over 20 years of cognitive behavioral therapy have. I just wanted to thank you for taking the initiative to bring CEN out into the open for those of us who’ve never heard of it. Understanding CEN has helped me to accept my childhood experiences, my parents’ choices, and how my coping skills as a child have crept into (or followed) me into adulthood.
I do think that some therapists underestimate the healing power of giving something a name. Once I know my feelings are valid and are part of something with a name, I’m able to address my issue. For example, I was feeling horrible anxiety and outright fear of losing loved ones. Once I learned those feelings had a name (pre-grieving) and we’re experienced by others, I was able to accept the inevitable and put my anxiety to rest.
Thank You!