Comments on: You Can Use This Video to Help Heal Your Childhood Emotional Neglect

By: Jonice

Jonice — Tue, 13 Jun 2023 12:08:31 +0000

In reply to Alison. I'm so sorry, Alison, that is painful, for sure. I hope you will lean into that feeling and try to own it as a message from your body telling you that you need some love, warmth and compassion. Probably, you weren't able to get that from your parents as a child, or at least not enough of it. You can get it now from people who are capable of loving and caring about you.

By: Alison

Alison — Mon, 12 Jun 2023 21:27:54 +0000

The Dr missed something; when the little girl put out both her arms, that was a longing to be picked up by her mother. Since starting therapy I have that feeling repeatedly at times of stress…. it’s quite disturbing and sad.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Tue, 07 Jun 2022 01:31:50 +0000

I think the baby felt frustrated, confused, helpless, sad, scared, trapped and alone.

By: Kristen

Kristen — Sun, 05 Jun 2022 18:32:04 +0000

I can always see myself in the examples of what went wrong in childhood. I just have a very difficult time taking the steps needed to heal.

I’m also so impressed at Dr. Webb’s ability to figure all this out. She had the insight to needed to change herself and her life, and now how to guide us. It’s truly a gift!

By: Lise

Lise — Sun, 05 Jun 2022 16:27:18 +0000

i see the lost look on the baby and believe she felt abandon. This is me, but I felt annoyed by the crying baby. One of the few reasons i decided not to have children. I am not interested and find babies too needy. I also see she did not give up immediately. While i felt sad for the child I know for me the EN did not start until my younger sister was born (15 months later) and she was ill. I understand how the neglect happened. Sadly, the neglect left me open for sexaul abuse and I still feel not important. I am working on that. thank you for all you do

By: N P

N P — Mon, 18 Oct 2021 16:42:45 +0000

Please help me find ways to reconstruct positive emotions with my children as I contributed to their emotional neglect. That’s because I haven’t known better in my own miserable childhood and became worse in a dysfunctional relationship that extended and fed into my existing emotional problems. Please lead me to resources to educate myself to save my family and rebuild trust and care for each other.

By: Jonice

Jonice — Fri, 21 Jun 2019 15:54:01 +0000

In reply to Brinda. Dear Brinda, there are some CEN therapists in France and I am working on training more so keep checking back!

By: Brinda

Brinda — Mon, 17 Jun 2019 13:59:21 +0000

I felt helpless and started having tears seeing the child being so distressed. It is like I could relate to the baby’s reactions and feelings.
I wish I could find a therapist here in France who would know about CEN. But for the time being, I am trying to heal on my own thanks to your articles.
Thank you so much for everything that you’re doing.

By: C

Mon, 17 Jun 2019 03:39:28 +0000

I thought the baby felt confused, dismissed, sad and possibly angry. I felt empathy and understanding for the poor baby and fairly angry that the mother was even okay with participating. The experiment just felt cruel to me; however, intellectually I can understand that if that is one isolated experience it will likely not have a traumatic effect and that it may be a “necessary” cruelty to learn how to treat others. I can relate to having to scream and cry and be dramatic for one parent to finally understand, but the other is likely a narcissist (with the same wounds passed to me) in order to overcompensate for the emptiness. But even knowing all of this, I still have many challenges regulating my emotions, especially since my skill gap and similar tendency to fluctuate between overcompensated unhealthy narcissism and deep feelings of worthlessness and self-loathing combined with poor impulse control (skill gap, in progress with C&DBTs) has negatively affected my ability to have any form of stability other than complete instability in every aspect of life itself. This is complicated further with a bipolar 1 diagnosis, but I am curious as to how much overlap there is between the two issues as well as if a “the chicken or the egg” question is present. I just have too little education and too much doubt and cognitive distortion to trust my own conclusions.

By: Jonice

Jonice — Sat, 18 May 2019 19:02:47 +0000

In reply to Rachel. Dear Rachel, I am so sorry! That is the last thing I want to do. There is healing all throughout this website. Please do read all the posts and you will find answers. All my best to you.