Comments on: Your “Gut Sense” is Sending You Messages: 4 Good Reasons You Must Listen

By: Jonice

Jonice — Thu, 13 Aug 2020 14:12:16 +0000

In reply to Gin. Dear Gin, yes, exactly and well said: Feelings are just information – and how I use the information is what matters.

By: Gin

Gin — Tue, 11 Aug 2020 00:22:43 +0000

I went from a CEN home into an emotionally abusive marriage with a narcissist, so for decades my ‘gut’ was just another thing for my abusive partner to berate me about. Now, I have escaped that marriage, but I have to actually stop and ask myself how I feel about something – it doesn’t come naturally to me. Shutting down my emotions and going into ‘freeze’ mode became such an automatic thing – a non-reaction was safer for me until I could detect what the mood around me was like. I just turned 60, and feel like I’m just starting to learn how to live freely.
Thank you for this article, and all the others I have read. The journey back to the self I should have been is going to be amazing. I just have to remember that Feelings are just information – and how I use the information is what matters.
Thank you again for your invaluable work!!

By: Jonice

Jonice — Thu, 06 Aug 2020 20:48:58 +0000

In reply to Elina. Dear Elina, I'm sorry to be unable to advise you on this because I would need to know you much better to say. But in general, all feelings are not the same and no one rule applies for everyone. I suggest you consult a CEN Therapist from the list who can get to know you and guide you on this.

By: Elina

Elina — Wed, 05 Aug 2020 19:56:10 +0000

Hi Jonice!

As I’ve learned from you, we cen people should really pay attention to our emotions. But could you clarify this? Should I pay attention to my every “little” passing feeling? On an ordinary day for example, a message from a friend makes me cheerful, a bill from the mail makes me feel tense, covid makes me anxious, eating too much chocolate guilty, summer makes me happy, bad weather annoyed, trying new clothes excited etc. And I can feel ALL of this like within 10 minutes!! Some of these feelings come and go, do I really need to pay attention to them? I do not want to become obsessive and observe my every emotion as if I were a laboratory rat! I consider myself a normal person, not like hyper-emotional, even though I have cen. Are these like “nonsense” feelings?

Interestingly, the “deeper” feelings (negative feelings that I experienced as a child as I endured abuse) my mind does not seem to let me access (feel) them. Not then (some 30 years ago), not now. Should I really make an effort to “retrieve” those old buried feelings and feel them now? Many healers say that is the key to release them once and for all. Is it so, does it make sense, should I try to feel now (intentionally) the decades old feelings?

I just noticed the sad irony, I realise I’m basically asking instructions from you how to feel feelings…when they should “just” be felt? But as a cen person, this is all little bit confusing to me.

By: Jonice

Jonice — Wed, 05 Aug 2020 13:48:06 +0000

In reply to WRM. Dear WRM, you can only learn to discern this by paying attention to your feelings all the time and learning what they are and what they mean. As you get to know yourself this way your feelings will make more sense to you.

By: Jonice

Jonice — Wed, 05 Aug 2020 13:46:29 +0000

In reply to Patricia. Good for you, Patricia! Your voice is important and must be heard.

By: WRM

WRM — Tue, 04 Aug 2020 23:45:26 +0000

I struggle with discerning an anxiety/fear knot in my gut from a “real” message. I definitely believe our body offers a great deal of information but I’m not sure how to know when it’s a false reading from hypervigilance or another form of anxiety.

By: Patricia

Patricia — Tue, 04 Aug 2020 21:26:05 +0000

Hi, yes I know I should have said something, but didn’t. I felt my opinion or statement didn’t matter. Again, that was my house growing up. Children was not to speak:CEN Thanks for enlightening me. I’m working on speaking up.

By: Jonice

Jonice — Mon, 03 Aug 2020 13:32:38 +0000

In reply to JMC. Dear JMC, it sounds like you did finally listen. Life is a learning process, so I encourage you to keep your focus on learning vs. kicking yourself.

By: JMC

JMC — Mon, 03 Aug 2020 10:02:30 +0000

Hi Jonice,
I recently broke up from an 8 year relationship….my gut told me from the beginning that there were warning signs…red flags…..but I ignored them. Red flags were my gut telling me things were wrong. If only I’d listened! Thankyou for all your articles about CEN.