Pandemic Survival Guide For the Emotionally Neglected

Let’s start with a few questions about your own personal experience with social distancing during the pandemic.

The Questions

  1. Are you having strong feelings that you feel alone with? Are you wondering what you’re supposed to do with all the feelings you’re having?
  2. Are you feeling hemmed-in, hurt, harmed, helpless, irritated, annoyed, or otherwise overly affected by the people you are sheltering in place with?
  3. Is spending more time with your partner or spouse raising some problems and/or questions about the relationship?
  4. Is all the home-time with your kids magnifying behavior problems, making you doubt your parenting, or leaving you feeling at sea about what to do?
  5. Are you concerned about your parents but avoiding calling them?
  6. Do you wish you were able to speak up and state your feelings and needs but find you don’t know what to do or how to do it?

The Answers

Read my CEN Pandemic Survival Guide by clicking on the link or the picture below. I hope it offers you ideas, solace, helpful advice, and care.


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carol - November 2, 2021 Reply

Weirdly, I’ve found not having to interact with anyone outside my home oddly freeing. Not having to try and understand how others are feeling and trying to have some emotional connection to them has lessened my stress levels. It’s tiring trying to appear connected when you have no idea what it’s means to be connected

    Jonice - November 7, 2021 Reply

    Dear Carol, you’re right, trying to appear connected is very exhausting! I encourage you to do the work of becoming more connected in a real way. Then you can actually get energy from your connections. The process of doing this is the process of feeling your emotions and using them to guide, inform, and fill you. It’s the path of recovery from CEN.

F Sweeney - November 2, 2021 Reply

All my life I’ve had feelings of loneliness of not belonging. During lockdown I stayed with a friend. I felt less lonely but couldn’t get inspired to do anything different. After lockdown I returned to living alone again and find the loneliness unbearable.
After completing one of your courses ( can’t remember the title) I felt elated, at last I had found what my problems were. I felt reborn. I tried twice to get on the “Fuel Up For Life” programme but frustratingly my debit card was declined each time. Sorry to bring this up now but I couldn’t find any other way to communicate.

    Jonice - November 7, 2021 Reply

    Dear F, it sounds like living alone is not the best choice for you. Maybe you could think about what you would need in order to make a different choice on a more permanent basis than lockdown. I’m sorry you’ve been frustrated trying to enter the Fuel Up For Life program. Please email me at and we’ll be happy to help you out with it.

Olivia - October 31, 2021 Reply

It’s strange, during the pandemic when people felt alone and scared etc. it made me feel better. I’m not the only one anymore. Most people understand what it’s like to be anxious, scared, alone, uncertain. I feel more normal now.

Lisa - April 15, 2020 Reply

What about people sheltering in place alone, no kids or partner?

    Jonice - April 15, 2020 Reply

    Great question, Lisa. I’ll try to address that in my next week’s blog. Many, many people are in that situation. Take care!

Jonice - April 12, 2020 Reply

You’re welcome, Kathy. I hope you find it useful! Stay safe and well.

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